Hello to everyone here. I haven’t posted much here lately as I have been busy trying to move my life forward in these strange circumstances we are facing. I have adjusted to the change of working at home and with my family we have been deciding how to cope with the lockdown.
My family includes my 87 year old Mum and my shielding daughter 24 who has an auto-immune condition. We don’t live together but we are part of a family that works together for mutual support.
I am not going to tell anybody what to do and how much to ease your own personal lockdown. Like me you may have Parkinson’s, another health issue or no condition at all. There are so manty separate circumstances that this is no time for one size fits all. What I am going to do is suggest a way to approach any fears or anxieties you may have.
Walk on the beach
I keep hearing the term “the new normal” but that is misleading. It may become the new normal but right now it is just change. Change in the best of times can be unsettling. I imagine that some of you like me, have not been to a supermarket for four months. If we go now most of us are expected to wear masks. Previously wearing a face covering in a shop meant a possible robbery. Over the last few weeks we have seen shops, pubs and hairdressers open. Some people are now expected to return to work. The familiar has changed due to potential ambush from a virus we can’t see. I have been to the hairdressers but I am not ready for the pubs. I choose to have my groceries delivered.
You may be expanding your life in different ways but may be afraid or anxious. One approach for coping with that is to turn your fears into questions. If you can turn your fears into questions you can start to put them into context, Perhaps they can then be written down and you can see what your anxieties are.
Once you have the questions you can hopefully start to answer them. If you can break down your fears, you may be able to find answers to all or part of them. Maybe you can make a plan My daughter had barely been out for 4 months and wanted to walk on a beach. We selected a beach we knew. It was a place we understood the access and the parking and went in the evening, when it was quieter. We had a lovely walk. She wants to visit Charlestown, which is busier, so I went there a few days ago to check it out. We will decide how to do it together.
So just to summarise. If you can question your fears and write down your questions, you can then seek answers. You can break down the issues and minimise the risk with a plan. Hopefully this approach can help you take back some control in these changing times. One thing is for sure he change has not ended.